The BEAUTY of The FORMAL UNIVERSITY, The HARD of The LIFE UNIVERSITY

bY: Tan Bun Heng

The obedience to parents.
If being paid attention to by us the stage lived of Indonesians generally in the matter of education, then will be encountered by a formal educational routine that were begun from kindergarten to finally entered a period that his name the period in university. Every year in cities always was stirred up with parents who chose the college/the university for his beloved sons and daughters. For most communities that were enough was, the degree of the scholarship was a symbol himself for the child and the family, a symbol of the Success. With ‘Love’ each parent tried to give education that was best for their children as far as the University.


You just enough focuses of the lecture only.
Some of the view from most parents that for so many of his child's years of just enough lectures, without must join the other activity, let alone working on the basis of disrupting the concentration of the child in completing his lecture. IP high still was regarded as the success benchmark of a student. That was more extreme was the ban emergence on certain parents to his child in order to not join the other activity. Several people of the child will be obedient towards the message/‘command’ his parents. For continuation of the lecture the child, parents willingly provided all the facilities that were needed by his child in the hope that his child passes with IP high. Were parents wise by means of like that and exact the child's attitude that like that followed his parents's wish?

The lectures education system generally in Indonesia.
Generally, education in lectures was not different far with the school. The student was still being brought face to face with the task of memorising theories when gazing at the exam/the quiz. Meaning that in a manner indirectly the student who eventually will become a scholar will become the scholar that ‘clever’ memorised but not more powerful in the matter of the analysis and his mentality. If being paid attention to by us days gazed at the exam/the quiz then usually the place of the photocopy is busy by the student who tried to look for the spoke/‘the leak’ the matter/exam. Moreover exam days was most difficult days for the student because of must learn to memorise so thick lecture books. Exam days be proper for already like the life in ‘hell’.
The culture pursued the high value still became the main focus of the student without realize the meaning of education and the quality himself that actually.

The REAL life university.
Every Year increasingly many scholars who were unemployed after graduating from the tertiary institution. Why did that happen?

1. The education system in this country tended to teach someone to become the worker, not the manufacturer of new employment opportunities.
2. Employment opportunities that were available limited.
3. The quality of the graduate was not ready to face the real life that so hard and was full of the challenge.

The Kompas news, on Wednesday, January 24, 2007 presented the news that according to the Bureau of the Centre of statistics; the number of unemployments was open per August 2006 numbering 10.93 million people. Truly a reality that was the opposite of hope of parents initially.
Graduates were not enough provisions to investigate ‘The Real Life University'. The life was so hard; was gotten by various characters of the person, was increased by the complex problem.
The actually world not easy as like our image on paper.

The wrong Parents's affection.
The Affection of each parent might not be to his child doubted by us his sincerity. Each parent wanted his child to gain the success and the happiness. Only occasionally parents forgot that what was done not necessarily was appropriate for his child. The definition of the happiness and the success of parents not necessarily was the same as the definition of his child. Even precisely sometimes parents in a manner did not realise treated his child as himself personally, wanted his child to become himself. Often also the method that was applied by parents precisely will bring the destruction chasm for his child and made his child live but actually already half died.

All must be done with step by step.
The Life of each kind of human kind was the stage for the sake of the stage. Someone who wanted to be able to swim, definitely he must not control all the swimming theories before. That was wise was carried out was him studied several steps, afterwards began to try; learned to swim from the shallow place, more in, just to the place that in; swam from the short distance, furthermore, just afterwards the long distance. If his studying method was topsy-turvy, he must learn all the swimming theory before hand, afterwards immediately was told to swim the long distance and in deep place, could be confirmed he will die sank. The matter so current also in the real life. A student that when the period went to finish his class, his activity was everyday only took part in the lecture, tended when he passed to a scholar, would confusion and could not do something when facing the world of the work. The formal university really was different from the world of the work/the business that actually.
For example, in working/our business must memorise all like when going to class?the answer was not. On the other hand that more was needed was the analysis power in solving the available problem that was carried out creatively.

The lecture was really preparations that important to enter in the real life.
The lecture Period was the period that was important for the student in preparing faced social life that eventually will bear responsibility and will be free from his parents. Was the very positive matter if the student began to look for the production of the addition to reduce the burden of his parents whether that through the work part time, the work full time or efforts that were cleared. Moreover also could be active in the student activity that could support the field that was involved in by him. Don't joined the activity because of the happiness for a moment, but saw the requirement that actually in the future. Therefore step by step the student will see the world of the life that actually where after being finished the lecture would have been full of the experience and has been used to it. Parents also better not forbid his child to do these matters on the basis of disrupting his lecture. The fact showed that many students who continued to pass with the high and right on time value although working full time since from the beginning attended classes.

You were the determiners of your own life.
Possibly several of the you as the student when was offered to be active in an organisation or a beneficial work, refused on the basis of parents to not permit and dare to violate him because of being it was considered disobedient and did not appreciate. Precisely the appreciation that actually to parents was when you could show the laboratory field work that really was useful. When we could justify parents from the wrong view then actually that was our real service as a child. If wanted really honest, was the reason true actually that made us reluctantly? Many students lived in a comfort zone that had been formed since childhood. All was available, was provided and was kept being enjoyed then. Was difficult very much to be free from this comfort zone.

However had you thought what will happen to yourself if once because of having something that happened where parents you could not really finance you to go to class, even to eat then could not. At that time what will be done by you with provisions that were not enough? The old saying “Prepare the umbrella before rain” should have to be carried out by us while we indeed could. Although rules of play that were maintained by parents you, one matter that must be realised by you were that in the long run not always parents you always with you, were not possible for your parents to finance your life forever. Once you must fight to support you yourself, even the other person. So this life was you that must determine personally, not anyone, because in the future, you will long run this real life. [tbh]

Author: Tan Bun Heng, was the graduate of the Management Information Faculty, Universitas Bina Nusantara (1998). When the lecture was active in the social activities, spiritual, the development himself, and had held the office of Chairman spiritual organisation of the Campus. At this time he was professional as the motivator and inspirator in Dynamic Life Solution and the Teacher/The leader Health Meditation and Peace. He could be contacted in +62-021-92770718. or +62-815-139-99668.

Source: Pembelajar.com